School is a Place to Learn Bravery and Kindness
In the last 15 minutes of the Lewis Howes interview with Glennon Melton (link below), I found some of the best parenting advice ever.
Glennon talks about ‘the talk’ she has with her children every year before sending them back to school. I won’t try to relate it all here, because I couldn’t do so as eloquently as she does in the interview or in the post on her site (Go read her blog post “The Talk” on Momastery because it should be required reading for all parents).
She basically tells her children that she cares little whether they are the best or worst at any given school-based pursuit except for one: bravery and kindness (pardon the long quotation)….
We don’t send you to school to become the best at anything at all. We already love you as much as we possibly could. You do not have to earn our love or pride and you can’t lose it. That’s done.
We send you to school to practice being brave and kind.
Kind people are brave people. Brave is not a feeling that you should wait for. It is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd.
Trust me, baby, it is. It is more important.
Don’t try to be the best this year, honey.
Just be grateful and kind and brave. That’s all you ever need to be.
I could use that advice myself everyday when I head off to work or when I sit down to parent my children or be a husband to my wife.
It’s not the goal to be perfect or the best. The goal (as Ms. Melton also discusses in the interview with Howes) is to bring who I am, wherever I happen to be, to whatever situation I’m in, and just give myself. My kids don’t need a perfect dad. They just need me. And I have to believe my clients don’t need a perfect provider of services. They need a straight up, honest, servant.
She said (and I paraphrase), “When we stop trying to be perfect, we finally have energy to do good.”
I love that. It’s mantra-worthy.
As a matter of fact, if I worried about being perfect, I wouldn’t have written and hit ‘publish’ on all of these posts from this past month.
Thanks Lewis and Glennon. This 43 year old dude appreciates you both.
Today’s Action: Brainstorm seminar/workshop topics for my first (official) opportunity.
Checked that box. I put together 6 topics with a short synopsis of each and sent them to the association’s education coordinator (not sure if that’s her official title). I loved the fact that after having blogged for a while, I was able to develop topics pretty quickly. In truth, I didn’t have to develop them. They’ve been bubbling up and being fleshed out over the past 2 or 3 years.
How to Overcome Addictions and Be Courageously Vulnerable with Glennon Melton – The School of Greatness Podcast with Lewis Howes.
I finished up this episode today. I’m so glad I did. While it wasn’t directly actionable, I got all kinds of parenting ideas. In the end, if I can parent well, I will have been a success. Don’t forget to check out Glennon’s blog, The Momastery, to learn more.
What Sharing My Childhood Rape Taught Me About Being a Loving, Vulnerable, Free Man – The School of Greatness Podcast with Lewis Howes
I came close to passing over this episode of Mr. Howes’ podcast. Having a 7 year old daughter and 6 year old twin boys, I wasn’t sure if it was a story I had the emotional bandwidth to listen to today. I’m glad I did and appreciate, deeply, Lewis’s willingness to be ridiculously vulnerable. Courage has many faces and this episode showed one of them.
This blog is a response to Dan Miller’s unintentional challenge from his podcast on August 15, 2014: If you read or listen to 30 minutes of quality content a day, you’ll double your income.
From September 1, 2014 through March 1, 2015, I will be doing the following:
- Listening or reading to 30 minutes of success, growth, business, spiritual, or other mindset-shifting, skill-sharpening content.
- Selecting one action item from that content (with some leeway to select an action from a previous day’s content).
- Doing that one action.
- Writing about the action or some other idea from the reading and listening of the day.